Financial talk

My husband sees his ex stepdaugter.Angery. His mother was never close to his ex-step daughter. Neither was my mother. My husband does not share custody of the ex-step daughter. neither did or does the mother want him to be his legal father. But I can't help being aggravated that the ex-wife is around. I don't feel that it's normal and it has caused problems for months between me and my husband that i feel like leaving him and also issues of resentment for him helping others and making me feel last in his life, Also feeling that he is a lier from catching him in lies and him confessing (confessed big lie in 1 month and broke up for 3 years). Am I over reacting ? After being married for a year the mother contacted my husband to tell him that she needs him to be in her daughters life again because she is starting to rebel. but i am aggrivated that she might use the step child to get things she needs, also my husband giving the step child money and seeing her regularly. Any advice? How to confront my husband? I do not know what to do because my husband has been seeing and spending $$$ on his ex step child. When I met him I only met her once and then the mother stopped her from seeing him for at least 5 years. So I thought that he would no longer be able to. But he apperently told me that something like he will have her in his life and told me before >:-(. here is the other yahoo answers page to understand more.... I thought of talking to my family that he may listen to but (small family only have 1 but she is very far away) he is much more busy now a days apperently working (maintenence..maintainting of 5 buildings). I am earning money myself too.My consern what i told him is that we need the money for when we have our own child. and he says something like I understand but... When I would like him to take me out for dinner for example he does not have the money which would help if he did not spend on her (he puts alot to savings) any suggestions? my husband is leaving to a trip to go jog and there are alot of issues that need to be solved. i had put alot of my dreams and have stopped them because they involve traveling. I have told him that our relationship is lop sided because of him being able to leave for pleasure. he said i can do my dreams but i am sure he does not mean it. any sugesstions? he is a penny pincher so if i did go he would definatley say no.