Financial talk

Where the line should be drawn when it comes to a five old when it comes to privacy, between father and daughter? I boyfriend and I have been dating for about six months. He is a single parent to a 15 and a 5 year old, both daughters. And since our dating I have come to observed that the 5 year old disrespects her older sister and demands to be the Center of attention, my boyfriend tells me that when she is with her mother that her mother spoils her literally. Then When she comes to spend time with him after schools days everything is pretty much centered on her. I have observed That for most of the time when I am not there that he will shower his five year old daughter with the exception of her Private parts so he says. And at times will ask his 15 year daughter to shower her sister. And of course when I am there I also help out with showers, but what I do is task and allow her shower herself while I over see that she is doing it correctly. And from my observation is that if she was taught more often to wash her own hair she could shower alone without any Assistance, I have also observed the five year old will waltz right into the restroom when her father is using it. Then again the Door is not locked and at times it left slightly if not open. And when it comes to bed time why of course it could be hours be Before I can spend what little time her father and I have beings that we both work very early in the mornings. I also observed That she will not sleep alone unless her father is at her side, so of course my boyfriend will not leave her until he knows that she Is asleep, she also is a thumb sucker through out the day time but at night she falls asleep thump sucking. But when is school She will not suck her thumb. She also talks baby talk at times and must be told more then once to stop being disrespectful and Defiant, and has gone as far as telling her father that she is the boss. I also was told by my boyfriend that when his eldest daughter Which in now 15 was not catered and spoiled due to his previous girlfriend which is the mother of the 5 year old as both daughters Have different mothers. Previous girlfriend was jealous of the 15 year old which at the time was only 2 years of age did not sleep But had slept next to the bed on a futon down on the carpet, because the previous girlfriend had issues with the 2 year old, personally Speaking I myself would not have an issues with a 2 yrs. old but a 5 yrs. old I do believe that it would be to the best of her interest to Learn to adapt to sleeping alone upon being tucked into bed. And the reason’s of my concern is that her father is a Fire Man and They work 24 hours on and then off, and when I want to help out she dose not what to sleep with me. Ever since her mother told her To not allow me to put her to sleep, her mother even what as far as to tell her (five yrs. old) to not be nice to me, I will not blame the Child for her behavior I will blame the Father and the Mother. I am not sure how to handle this delicate situation that I have allowed Myself to get into, and I now realized why it took my boyfriend five in half a months before he actually allowed me to inter act with the 5 yrs old, when it came to the 15 yrs. old it took only 2 weeks. I perceive that my boyfriend thinks that I’m or could be like his previous Girl friend whom was very abusive mentally and physically keep in mind that that is the 5yrs. old mother, and what is so odd about all of this Is that the 15 yrs. old mother is 37 yrs. old and has told my boyfriend that she would like to meet me, which we have and when we did she Just kept thanking me for paying attention to her and helping her out, now the 5yrs. old mother whom is 42yrs. of age is envious of the fact I’m in her 5yrs. old father’s life. My boyfriend has expressed to that is was the 5yrs. old whom has asked me to sleep with, (until that is She contaminated her daughter’s thoughts.) Of me putting her to sleep, however I love my boyfriend and both of his daughter’s. Just not To sure of how to handle this neither without it becoming an argument, nor on the other hand should I address my concerns about his 5 yrs. Old daughter’s behavior, I have two children of my own, my son is soon to be 20yrs. old and my daughter whom is 18 yrs. old and I too Became a single parent when my children where 5 and 4 yrs. of age. And I can say this that my daughter is the joy of my life and has honored Me with Graduating from high school, she is will mannered, and is very thoughtful of her brother whom she respects. And proud to say that she Is virgin and is saving her self until marriage, and has shared with how she would like to be financial secured before heading into a relationship. She is working To jobs and enjoying being preteens, I’m just to trying to look for some outside input on this matter. Thanks